We stand now where two roads depart. But contrasting the roads in Robert Frost's familiar poem, they are not equally blond. The road we have long been traveling is misleadingly trouble-free, a downy expressway on which we steps forward with great tempo, but at its end lies ruin. The other diverge of the road the one "less traveled by" offers our last, our only chance to reach a goal that assures the maintenance of the earth. Out of all the justifications I have heard that try to authenticate marital violence within a marriage, none enrages me more than the one that comes from a man who uses belief to justify the beatings.
The Quran states that a husband is not allowed to hurt a woman to the extent where she is left bruised, even if she has committed a sin. “As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.” (Surah Nisa, Quran 4:34)
A man who abuses or beats a woman is not really a man, since there is no evaluation between a man and a woman in first set. Main reason is that a woman could be weaker psychologically so there should be no supplementary violence against the weaker side. All over again, If I am exact several Hadith subsist which state that ‘The best among you are those who treat their wives good’.
Women are flimsy like a fix, if you will try to twist very hard they can break. Surely, Islam has prearranged and given some accountability to a man. He is the boss of family unit and dependable for providing for the wife and children and has to make certain their good demeanor as well. Where there is check and stability, man has been hallowed with physical power. But with power comes responsibility and great care should be taken in exercising their responsibility. Often, the wife beating dispute is taken out of framework and specially non-Muslims use it to smear Islam. Though the cases of domestic violence against women is also common in the west where women have just been turned into some mere commodity. In Islam, woman has been blessed with great category in all roles, be it Mother, sister, wife or daughter.
A similar saying from Hindu epic Ramayana is “Dhol, Ganwar, Shudra, Pashu, Nari, Yeh Sab Tadan Ke Adhikari”. Means a drum, idiot, low cast person, animal and woman are meant for beating.
If someone beats another person up (whether it be man or woman), they will always try to justify their actions. The husband is the carer of the wife and not the beater.
If the translation was right, we have to remember than physically men are stronger than women, so even if the man did beat his wife lightly then there are some men who don’t know their own power and their ‘light beating’ could potentially injure their wife. Their children would also pick up on it and they will think that its OK to do the same when they grow up. We have to memorize that the Qu’ran has been sent for all of mankind, so the message in Surah Nisa is for all men.
According to the Noble Quran and the Sayings of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him above, wife beating in Islam is beyond doubt outlawed, possibly even in the case where the wife fails after she was warned twice for her ill-conduct and disloyalty. I think it's very important for everyone in Pakistan to realize right now the state of our country, not just on this matter but on a lot of issues, that it is time to get active again. People have just sat back and just sort of said, oh, let somebody else do it for a long time, and we're seeing what's phenomenon to the country, even freedom of speech. It's not going well. So I think this is a real prospect for people to see, yes, if you do get out and you do get active, there are other people there. You just have to hunt for them out."
Note: I posted this post on allvoices.com on 4rth March 2011. The link is given below:
http://www.allvoices.com/contributed-news/8369532-violence-against-women-women-beaten-up
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